I've been MIA

I wish I could say it was because I had my baby and am super busy, but nope. Stiiiiiillll pregnant. Again, I'll try to keep the complaints to a minimum, because it's really not THAT bad and I know it can be worse (I just had a friend who had to be hospitalized for five days because she had some severe pre-e stuff going on, so yeah, my little backaches don't compare.) and because I think it's a little redundant to say I'm done. Each week I've had a major complaint - 35 weeks I was really crampy, 36 weeks the heartburn struck, and now at 37 weeks I'm so very tired. I have days where I'm tired and can't sleep, and days where I'm tired and crash at 8 PM and don't wake till 9 AM the next day. So that's my main complaint, I am so very tired, and my morning sickness is back. But, hey, 2 more weeks and we're done, and I know next week with Thanksgiving it's going to go so quickly so. Wow, 2 weeks and we're done!

To update on everything that's been going on... Doctors appointment was stupid. LoL. I got tested for group b strep and on top of that they were like "surprise! we'll also be testing you for two STDs!" - I guess since I fall into a certain age range, it's standard. But I was just kind of irritated - I was tested for everything my last pregnancy, and came back clean so just because I fall into this age range they test me again. However, I told Jeremy if I pop positive this time, someone's got some explaining to do. However, with all that action going down there, they didn't check me for dilation, and honestly after all that poking and swabbing I didn't want anything else shoved in there. I'm supposed to be going to weeklys, but they were all booked this week, so I don't go back till Monday - and I'm actually hoping that's my last appointment and that they don't want me back before my c-section (which would be the following Tuesday.)

...Well, it would be really nice if I went into labor before that even, and the last appointment I went to would be my last. But. Whatever.

So moving on to MIL. Oh, my MIL. Really, really, REALLY dislike my MIL.

For starters, there's the Christmas incident, which almost made me shoot her. Jeremy and I decided that we were doing Christmas presents for the kids, and not anyone else. Jeremy's taking a month off work to help after my c-section and we just won't have the money. I thought about doing homemade gifts, but I'm just afraid I'll get one or two gifts done and then not have time to finish for anyone else. So, kids it is this year.

I told him to let his parents know, because if they don't want to buy us a gift in return, they don't have too. (Which, while I understand that Christmas isn't about the gifts, I thought was rather nice of me, considering last year Mary Anne told us they couldn't do gifts for us, and then proceeded to tell us what we could buy them.)

Anyway, she seemed to understand... Or so I thought. He gets off the phone with her, and she calls back literally two minutes later. Why? "OH, I just thought of a cheap gift idea you guys could get us!"

I mean we didn't say "We're keeping it a low budget Christmas this year, so don't expect much from us." Jeremy said "We don't have the money to get anyone Christmas gifts. We have Cayden's presents bought already and aren't getting gifts for anyone else."

Jeremy didn't think it was rude at all, but I was VERY offended, and even a little bit hurt. And I was even more offended that Jeremy backed off and was like "Oh, OK!" Instead of being like "No, we aren't doing gifts for anyone."

Then she called us a few days later and asked us what to bring to Thanksgiving.

.....What?

We did invite them to Thanksgiving. But she said she'd have to get back to us because their car was in bad shape (which is the same excuse they've used Thanksgivings past and never fixed the car, and it hasn't stopped them from driving to her brother's house for Christmas which is even further, but whatever.) And then my FIL called and gave us a definite no because they didn't have the money (which makes no sense, the only money they needed was gas money, which I do get gas is expensive, but I know they're just going to go out to dinner and spend more than that while eating out. But again, whatever.) So we called my Uncle and told him that they said no. And now, a little over a week before Thanksgiving, you're just randomly going to be like, what can we bring? When, exactly were you going to tell me you were coming? How about asking if it's still OK?

So now they're coming supposidly. I guess we'll see - My husband's Aunt ended up texting us the next day to invite us to THEIR thanksgiving, which I actually LOVE his Aunt and would like to go, but I'm not bailing on my Uncle after we said we'd come. However, MIL mentioned it to us, so I wouldn't be surprised if she bails last minute to go to her brothers house.

So then finally the dinner... It was actually low key. I think my MIL knows when I've just about reached my breaking point and then kind of backs off. However, we did have a few moments of "man, how come nobody's shot you yet?" but again, nothing major.

I mean the first annoyance is that they still take FOREVER to eat, but she picked a place that she actually did not once complain about the food, which shocked the hell out of me. Still, we were there for over 2 hours, which just... It irritates me to sit there that long. Then my MIL ordered dessert - which is fine, but I got SO annoyed because the waiter asked my FIL if he wanted anything, and he said no. And freaking waited until they brought MIL's dessert before he ordered his. UGH.

Then some topics of conversation got annoying:

-I don't know if you guys heard the VERY sad story of the 2 year old who got out of the house while his Mom was sleeping and ended up drowning in the pool. MIL heard about this and chose to lecture me on childproofing. Which always just annoys the crap out of me because she's around us so little, I just don't feel like she of all people has the right to question my parenting skills - because she has no clue what they are. I mean to me, it's kinda like - how the hell did my kid make it to two lady? She talks to me like I'm an idiot.

-I got lectured because I set my purse on the floor. I know a lot of people say not to leave your purse on the floor because of bugs and stuff, but honestly I don't care. Maybe it'll take bringing home a large ugly bug friend to freak me out to learn, but I'm like whatever. However, she told me I shouldn't do it because there's a bed bug infestation and I could carry them home with me.

....If the restaurant is infested with bed bugs, then they're going to come home whether my purse is on the floor or on a chair. If anything, they're more likely to be inside the upholstered booth she was sitting in. She also told me that we couldn't go to the movies like we had planned because they were infested with bed bugs. Now, I know there IS a bad outbreak, but I'm not locking myself in the house to avoid them. If the infestation is that bad, I'm going to get them at some point or the other.

Then I think she got irritated because she asked what we planned on doing about Christmas at Jeremy's Uncle's house. They do this every year, and we do try to go every year because as I said, I really love his Aunt and Uncle and we don't see them often. This year I'm just not sure how that's going to work out. Sometimes they do it pretty early in December, in which case I will most likely not be going. Even if it's later in December, I don't want to commit to going and then have complications from surgery or whatever. She said she totally understood that... Until I said that Jeremy and Cayden were welcome to go without us (meaning me and the baby.)

I think she was kind of shocked that I wouldn't let Jeremy bring the baby. Which, I didn't think was that unreasonable. For one, I don't think Jeremy could handle Cayden AND a newborn (for the record, I'm VERY glad to have my husband home for the first month, because I have no idea how I'M going to handle Cayden and a newborn). And it would be one thing if it were my Mom who I know would help out, but MIL and FIL can't even pick Cayden up - how are they going to help wrangle him? And I'm sure Aunt and Uncle would help, only Cayden doesn't know them so I doubt he would go to them (Uncle tried to hold Cayden at his second birthday party, and Cayden cried.) Not to mention, I plan on breastfeeding, so how is THAT going to work?

I dunno, it was just a very annoying experience. She just talks and it makes me want to punch her.

But, that was a lot of complaining for someone who said they weren't going to complain. Sorry about that :-) I know some of you like my MIL stories, which is why I tell 'em. :-)

So now I'm going to get a snack and go to bed. I don't know if there will be anything worth updating until either my doctors appointment Monday ooooor after Thanksgiving.