Sorry I've been slacking on the writing. Honestly, it's been pretty busy around here, and I'm so full of complaints I wanted to spare you guys, lol. I'm trying not to complain TOO much - after all, I still remember just how badly I wanted this, but if you've been pregnant before you know you hit a point where as much as you want it, you're just done.
I have reached my point, lol.
The good news is, since they want to schedule a c-section at 39 weeks, as of today I have 5 weeks left. 35 days. That's crazy, huh? Just a little over a month and we'll be a family of four, and I'll probably be complaining about being pooped on and lack of sleep. But honestly, I'm oh-so-excited to see Cayden with his little brother. And I'm excited to see this little guy so we can finally name him. I have several names that I like, but I just can't pick. We originally went back to the original of Elijah, but I told a few people and it just didn't feel right, so now I'm back to the wait and see.
So, 35 days and we're done. And maybe even less if this not so little one decides to come on his own - which I'm praying and will be doing everything in my power (that's safe!) to try to help him along (not now of course, I have at least 3 more weeks until he's full term, so just twiddling my thumbs until then!)
My baby shower was this weekend, and it sucked. My two friends that threw it did a really awesome job, had fabulous decorations, games planned, wonderful food. But out of the 15 people who rsvp'd yes? Only one showed up. And then another person who RSVP'd maybe showed. I had 2 people at my shower. And it just kind of hurts my feelings. I know - it's a second baby and so some people think a second shower is tacky, but if that was how they felt, why even bother to rsvp yes? I just think it's rude. My hostesses wasted their time and money getting ready for that many people, only to have two show. And I've only had one person explain to me why they weren't there, and that was another maybe. Nobody else has said anything to me.
My MIL struck again too. Jeremy called her to see if she wanted a ride to come to the shower - and she said no. So, no excuse, just didn't want to come. Then she called Sunday evening, and I'm thinking, oh - she wants to at least see how the shower went, that's nice of her. But nope. Didn't ask about the shower at all. Just wanted to see when we were bringing back the table we borrowed - and then got pissed when Jeremy said we wouldn't be making a special trip to bring it back (if they needed it for something, we would, but they don't, so it's a hassle to drag it all the way up there when we have no other reason to go up there.)
So those two things combined just made me done. I'm not inviting people to things anymore when they don't show up - and if they get hurt about not being invited I'm going to be honest - it's a waste of an invitation. And that goes for when the baby is born. My in laws won't know the c-section due date, and after having the baby I'll see when I feel up to having them over. If that means it's a week after the baby is born, so be it. I know a lot of people are like "but they're family, you can't do that" or "You're stooping to her level" but here's my thing: Yes, she's family. But she's not really acting like it when she's skipping out on family events simply because she doesn't feel like going or wants to exert her control or whatever. And if she was really excited about this pregnancy, she's only shown it when there's someone to show off too. She hasn't cared about the ultrasound pictures, she hasn't bought anything for the baby, she can't even be bothered to ask how things are going. And I don't see it as stooping to her level - I just don't want to be stressed out about her on a day that is supposed to be happy.
That's about it, pretty much. I have a doctors appointment Thursday and will let you all know how it goes then. Maybe I'll get a c-section date. I'm not excited about having it on the books, but I AM excited about having an end date in site :-)
Wow, that's really shitty. I can't imagine how badly that must've hurt. I probably would've run into the bathroom crying. I have two friends who, when they RSVP yes, I consider them a no. But other than that, most of my friends show up if they say they're going to. Unless something comes up, which is understandable.
ReplyDeleteAnd your MIL is sounding worse and worse. She didn't even give you an "oh, I'm sick and can't make it. Have fun." or a "I'm sorry I didn't make it, I wasn't feeling well, how was it?" That's just mean. I think you're doing the right thing by not telling her when your c/s is. She's done it to herself. Everything is about her, and that's not fair. The day your child is born is about you and your child and your immediate family. It's your choice who else you let into that special day.
I mean I expected it to be a smaller deal, and I didn't invite nearly as many people as I invited to Cayden's shower. And to be honest, when we were having money issues at first we kind of NEEDED a shower to help with the gifts, but now that we're with my Mom, we had the extra money, so it was more about just being happy that another new one was on the way. And I know that when people RSVP yes, there's always a few who still don't show, but 14 friggen people? One of which I was talking to on facebook the morning of my shower, and she didn't say anything about not coming, nor has she said anything to me since. Honestly at first I thought it was a joke - I had wanted a surprise shower so I thought maybe they did this and it looked like nobody came and then I'd go somewhere else and there the real shower would be... But nope.
ReplyDeleteThough honestly it really showed me who my real friends are. Which sounds so high-schoolish, lol, but it's true. And I guess I'm just at that point in life where I realize it'd not about the quantity of friends, but the quality.